Let nature take your sorrows and your grief
Sink into her loving embrace
Feel the warmth of her support
And know that you are never alone
When I was going through a terrible time – desperately wondering whether to leave my narcissist husband or stay “for the sake of the kids” and because “surely I could help him get better” I went to visit a local park during my lunch break.
It’s amazing how much we can hold it together at work. Being in any kind of unhappy relationship is stressful but many of us manage to put on a mask and function.
When it’s an abusive or narcissistic relationship you are in a constant state of walking on eggshells, sheer frustration at the manipulation, reeling from the lies and being told you are always at fault, and wondering if you are crazy.
It’s exhausting and a huge strain on your adrenals, nervous system,fight or flight – you name it, it’s on edge.
Yet like so many of us who have been in an abusive relationship, I pulled my shit together 5 days a week, put on a smile and a swagger and was the main breadwinner. I held a good job in local government and did my best to try and have a positive cheery exterior.
One day however, I had had a particularly bad night and was struggling to remain composed at work. It was the constant mind chatter of doing the right thing, being scared, wondering if I was giving up if I walked out. Wondering how the heck I was going to deal with all the debt we were in – which I later discovered was because of his drug use.
So as I said, during my lunchbreak I walked to a local park in the city which has many very old and very special trees.
I was drawn to one particular tree and leaned against the truck, amongst its roots.
All of a sudden my pain and frustration just poured out of me.
Floods of tears came out. I cried uncontrollably. I mean really, I couldn’t stop.
I balled and balled. All the frustration, the pain, the grief just flowed out of me. There were people walking past but I didn’t care.
I was hidden amongst the roots and the branches and the leaves.
Cradled by the earth and this incredible gentle soul – a tree that was probably a hundred years old. Wise, kind, magical, never judging, just present and strong.
Ah the relief, the blessed grief.
How can nature support and heal you from trauma?
I believe (indeed I know it to be true) that there is something incredibly cathartic about having a good cry. And I have no doubt that this tree helped release that stored up emotion. It made me feel safe enough to let go. It helped me feel supported. It reminded me that I am never alone.
And – I’m sure you can relate – the clarity that comes after an outpouring of grief. Like the sunshine after the clouds.
So pure and light.
I will never forget that tree or that day. It was the start of a long but essential journey that has seen me come out the other side stronger, more loving to myself and with an even greater appreciation for the healing power of nature.
I use plant medicine and essences of nature in all my healings and coaching sessions because it makes the journey so much easeful and powerful.
I write this in the hope that it will help whoever most needs to read it.
Hi, my name is Melissa and I am an intuitive healer.
I work worldwide, helping people to have healthy and loving relationships – with their bodies, with other people, with money, but most importantly, with themselves.
Contact me for a free 30 minute Intuitive Alignment Consult and together let’s uncover and heal the mistaken beliefs and blocks you have to living a life you love.
In love and light